A victim recently reached out to the newly appointed White House VAWA Advisor, Lynn Rosenthal and during the conversation, Rosenthal stated, “I can’t do nothing to help your situation.” Rosenthal continued by saying, “the Vice President is very concerned on this topic and I relay your situation to him.”
The Womens Legal Resource Blog reports the same sentiments as we feel about it, concern and a diminished faith in the system.
We invite you to read the comment placed by this victim, Heather Thompson at the article titled Working with the White House to keep victims from falling through the cracks by Alexis A. Moore, another advocate who is the owner of Survivors in Action, and an expert in cyberstalking, stalking, and domestic violence.
When domestic violence resources fail, victims die. Family law and criminal courts are failing victims nationwide.
When a victim of domestic violence has to write a letter like the following letter – something is wrong:
I know that when I went through it—I had no support from friends or family—nor from the law—I had nowhere to go, nowhere to turn and I felt it was my fault and that I deserved it. When you are not valued as a child, when you are abused physically, emotionally, sexually and mentally you have no basis to believe it should or could be any other way. I felt it was my lot in life. Where do you go with 4 small babies at 19 years old, without an education, without any money, without any help or support, coming from an abusive family and where he will not find you? How did a 19 year old get into a fix like that in the first place?
It’s always about how little she is worth compared to how valuable he is and she has been born and bred to believe she is less valuable then he!
There is the whole thing in a nutshell.
Some of us make it out alive—some of us don’t—but none of us make it out without deep scars. Can’t we put aside everything else to stop this now? We are at epidemic proportions- they are killing us figuratively and physically- violence against women is a hate crime. Both my daughters were victims of violence. The cases are pending and I am not able to discuss these issues at present. Two sons-in-law are in jail. My oldest daughter Denise 45 passed 3/7/09. My youngest, Louisa 41 , remains hospitalized to date. It’s cyclical—daughters raised in these households go on to be abused—sons go on to abuse. From birth to death women must be valued.
—BJ, mother of domestic violence homicide victim
When resources fail, victims die.
Or when a woman makes a video documentary “just in case something happens to her” – something is very wrong.
I pleaded for help before my son was taken. I took a stack of police reports proving numerous violations of my protective order into the victims/witness office at my State Attorneys office, and was told my case was too complicated and escorted out.
I haven’t seen my son in 4 years.
Something is very wrong.